If you're in a difficult situation - just getting to the point when you can admit you need help is a huge step!
Then it's time to get help:

BOTSWANA

WoMen Against Rape (WAR) has offices in Maun in the North West district of Botswana. It offers counselling and legal services to survivors of gender-based violence including Intimate Partner Violence and has a safehouse for abused women and children.
www.womenagainstrape.org
Tel: + 267 686 0865
Fax: + 267 686 3058
Emergency line + 267 71311244

Emang Basadi Association offers counselling and legal services and their offices are in Gaborone city.
Tel: + 267 390 9335 / 395 9424
Fax: + 267 390 9335

Kagisano Society Workers Shelter project operates in the Gaborone area.

In every district there are trained social workers working for the social welfare department who are equipped for such interventions.
Tel: + 267 390 7659 / 390 8691

Every Social and Community Development (S&CD) office in your area would have a trained social worker. Also, keep in mind your Botswana Police Service station number in case of emergency.

SOUTH AFRICA
In South Africa, any victim of domestic violence can apply for a protection order at the nearest police station or magistrate's court; as well as lay a criminal charge. For more info see http://www.saps.gov.za/crime_prevention/women/domestic_violence.htm

Thuthuzela Care Centres are one-stop facilities that have been introduced as a critical part of South Africa's anti-rape strategy, aiming to reduce secondary trauma for the victim, improve conviction rates and reduce the cycle time for finalising cases.
• TCC Phoenix Crisis Centre, Mahatma Ghandi Hospital, Tel: +27 31 502 2338
• TCC Umlazi, Prince Mshiyeni Hospital, Tel: +27 31 907 8496
• TCC Mannenberg, Western Cape, GF Jooste Hospital, Tel: +27 21 691 6194

FAMSA gives counselling to the abused and their families.
http://www.famsa.org.za/abusive.asp

Rape Crisis Cape Town offers confidential counseling, legal advice and other support to victims of sexual violence in Cape Town and surrounding areas.
http://www.rapecrisis.org.za/

Alcoholics Anonymous 0861 HELPAA (435722)
AA has support groups all over the country. If you suspect your or a friend or relative has a drinking problem, call and find out how AA can help you.
http://www.aanonymous.org.za/

South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG)
0800 121314 (Toll Free) SMS's can also be sent to 32312.

CHILDLINE SOUTH AFRICA 0800 55 555

HELPLINES:

SAPS Crime Stop	08600 10111
Women Abuse Helpline	0800 150 150
Childline	0800 055 555
Stop Gender Violence Helpline	0800 150 555

ZAMBIA

Victim Support Unit (VSU) Zambia Police National Number Tel +260-211-253161
The VSU is a specialized unit within the Zambian police that was established in 1994. Victim Support Units (VSU) deal specifically with cases of rape, sexual abuse and domestic violence and have been established at most police stations. Police officers are also being retrained to consider domestic violence as a serious crime and victims can report domestic violence or get assistance from any police station. The emergency number to phone is 911 and one can ask to be directed to the nearest VSU.

National Legal Aid Clinic For Women (NLACW)
The NLACW largely deals with legal representation of women in the judicial system. Their cases range from domestic violence to property rights. They also are actively involved in advocacy and education around women's rights.
NLACW Helplines:
Lusaka - +260 211-220 595
Livingstone +260 213-320 611
Ndola +260 212-622 319

Young Womens Christian Association (YWCA)
YWCA has a comprehensive program including shelters for abused women and their children. They run drop in centers where women needing assistance can get both counseling and referrals if they need to take legal action against the abuser.
Telephone:+260 211 254751 or +260 211 257250