Questions to ask yourself about a partner. Answer the following questions with a yes or no.
Part One
1. Can you say what you like or admire about your partner?
2. Is your partner glad that you have other friends?
3. Is your partner happy about your accomplishments and ambitions?
4. Does your partner ask for and respect your opinions?
5. Does s/he really listen to you?
6. Can s/he talk about her/his feelings?
7. Does your partner have a good relationship with his/her family?
8. Does s/he have good friends?
9. Does s/he have interests besides you?
10. Does s/he take responsibility for her/his actions and not blame others for his/her failures?
11. Does your partner respect your right to make decisions that affect your own life?
12. Are you and your partner friends? Best friends?
If you answered many of questions 1 - 12 with a yes, you probably are not in a relationship that's likely to become abusive. Continue this quiz to find out more.
Part Two
13. When your partner gets angry, does s/he break or throw things?
14. Does your partner lose his/her temper easily?
15. Is your partner jealous of your friends or family?
16. Does your partner think you're cheating on him/her if you talk to or dance with someone else?
17. Does your partner expect to be told where you have been when you're not with him/her?
18. Does your partner drink or take drugs almost every day, or go on binges?
19. Does s/he ridicule, make fun of you, or put you down?
20. Does your partner think there are some situations in which it is ok for a man to hit a woman/a woman to hit a man?
21. Do you like yourself less than usual when you've been with your partner?
22. Do you find yourself ever afraid of your partner?
If you answered yes to any of the questions 13-22 you may want to be careful and think about your safety in the relationship. Your partner may not choose to talk about it or admit that s/he needs to find other ways of dealing with conflict. Concerned? You can meet confidentially with a counselor at: Together For Youth.
Quiz source: Together For Youth
WWw.togetherforyouth.NEt
Speak to a GOLD Peer Educator or facilitator if you need help getting out of an abusive relationship.
